Oh well – why not? I can rattle them off anyway. Let’s see how many I can get. Here is a list of words and terms that are generally used to describe things in the Psychopathic World by victims.
A – is for the truly Amazing feelings one felt upon meeting the Psychopath and the constant Attention that was received during the courting period. It is also for the Abuse that was endured unknowingly by the victim. ; and for the unconstrained and unexpected Anger that the Psychopath displayed when he was angry at things or people who questioned him. It is also the Acceptance needed when the victim realises that the situation is far worse than they could possibly imagine and the person they really love is a Psychopath.
B – is for the Blame that he places on you when HE does something wrong and you land up apologizing to him for his dishonestly! it is also for the lack of Boundaries that you did not put around you.
C – is for Cognitive Dissonance that is caused by the confusion when the Psychopath plays Jekyll and Hyde in numerous aspects of the relationship; Psychopathy’s nearest relative is listed under Cluster B Disorder – the Cluster B Disorder as described in the DSM [Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders];
D – is for the Dickhead he is when he plays the Discard card. Psychopaths are known for just breaking up ruthlessly and without any care for the way it is done. Victims are left reeling as to what just happened. D is also for Dupers Delight he gets when he pulls one over you; And for this Dicktionary of terms of his Deviancy .
E – is for the Emotional Vampire that he is. The Energy draining relationship with him that sucks the life out of you.
F – is for the need to say “You are a Fuckwit – just like your dad was” to him. Thanks for taking advantage of my kindness. It is also for the Forgiveness you have find to give yourself when you are trying to recover. Knowing that you have Forgone so many other things in your life to give full attention to the Psychopath.
G – is for the Garden Variety Psychopath who live amongst us as Friends, Work Colleagues, Neighbours, Siblings, Partners etc. They are not murderers nor are they the Top Gun CEO type characters. It is also for the victim’s trusting and Gullible nature ideal for getting conned by the Psychopath.
H – is for Hoover when he keeps hoovering around in and out of your life. Just when you think he is gone – Poof! he appears again. And if I had only known that he was telling the truth when he said “If a had a dollar for every person who said I Hate You, I would be a Millionaire”. At least he would be rich and would not be sucking others dry.
I – is for Idiot; Me, of course, for being so silly to keep on giving when I should have stood back and said “No More – Enough is Enough! “.
J – if for the dichotomy of the Jekyll and Hyde personality he had. He was loving one moment/day/week and then cold and disinterested and condescending and dismissive and angry the next.
K – for the Killer smile he had. Yup! these womanizers are charming and just know what to say to make you feel loved and great about your presentation. Full points for that – My Love had been with a lot or women to gain all his experience since the age of 9…
L – is for the Love Bombing that you get the pleasure of experiencing at the Victim Lure stage. This happens at the start where Psychopath “bombs” you with a flood of attention, message texts declaring love and adoration;
M – is for the Mind Fuck that the Victim goes through during the relationship which results in Cognitive Dissonance; The Psychopath also a tactic called Mirroring to mimics your likes/ dislikes /preferences just so that you think he has the same interests as you. It is a luring tactic and Psychopaths are so apt at it most victims believe that the Psychopath is their Soul Mate! Don’t forget the classic coping mask that the Psychopath has to put on in order to integrate with society – the Mask of Insanity.
N – is for NO Contact – An action taken when the Victim needs to cut loose all ties and communication with the Psychopath to gain freedom; It also represents the victim’s Naievity [defined as innocence, lack of sophistication, lack of experience, ingenuousness, guilelessness, lack of guile, unworldliness, child-likeness, trustfulness] – what a Numnut for falling in love and tolerating so much! But NEVER AGAIN.
O – is for OMG!! I was such a douche for believing this man – let alone TRUST him with my heart and soul.
P – is for PSYCHO!!! It is also for the Post Traumatic Stress Disorder that one goes through after a relationship with a Psychopath. There is also the Pathological Liar that he is .. you need to not believe anything that is verbalized unless you were there to witness it. It also represents the Promiscuity and Pimping that the Psychopath has in all his relationships.
Q – is for the Questions he evades when he is silent, not contactable, disinterested and still has the gall to ask you to loan him monies via one short message, as he was love bombing another supply.
R – is for the Ruthlessness he displays at times matching the action of a Discard, Silent Treatment or Triangulation. Yet he was SO gentle just yesterday .. It MUST be your fault he is acting like this.
S – is for the Stockholm Syndrome psychological effect that Victims are inextricably linked to the Abusers. Refer case study Stockholm Syndrome. The Psychopath also needs his pool of Supply in order to survive. These are the women the Psychopath targets in order to get finances, lifestyle needs, sex, etc; It is also for the Smirk he gives after Dupers Delight has been just played. Don’t forget the very important … Silent Treatment! The times when you wonder if you did something so wrong to upset him, or if he moved to another state, or if he is talking to another woman/messaging on a kids site or if he is simply asleep – for a few days ? ..
T – is for Triangulation when the Psychopath plays one woman off another in order to keep both women on the edge and insecure. Triangulation can also involve feeling jealous that the Psychopath is spending more time with his pet. There are also the classic Twenty Traits that test for Psychopathy from Robert Hare.
U – is for Unconditional Love you kept giving the Psychopath time after time thinking as others in his life have failed him, you can’t. So you keep bearing and tolerating in vain hope he will see the love and light and turn his life around for the better. U is also for the Unicorns that exist, just like the likely hood for the Psychopath making a permanent change for the better.
V – is for Victims. The people who love and care for these Psychopaths and those who have to understand and manage his disorder.
W – if for the Word Salad that a Psychopath dishes out when you are having a discussion/ argument about a topic in order to throw you off the line of questioning. Replies to your questions that are irrelevant but sound like they are related.
X – is for the XXX Extra Large pain you get when you are in/out/during/ a relationship with a Psychopath when he hurts you. Somehow, they do it so well .. unless you get rid of them to another dimension. It is for the X-ray vision you need to have to see through all his tricks.
Y – is for YOU. When you realise that the Psychopath saw holes in you that he could fulfill and things you were lacking in your life.
Z – Is for … I give up. It is late. Need sleep ..
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